It takes great courage to speak up, when you speak up about sexual harassment only respond you get is its normal,forget about it and it is common thing happens to every women. The more disappointing part is If this guy who sexually assault you is family member or close to your family you can still see him in all your family functions, talking to your family, laughing infront of your face, eating dinner served by your parents in your dining table. Not once or twice, I have heard such stories multiple times in my life and witnessed some as well. My question is what is the point of speaking up,if you choose to simply brush up and never bothers about victims feelings.
Incase some doesnt know let me explain that rape or sexual harassment victims go through a lot of trauma. If you heard about anxiety disorder,panic attacks,bipolar disorder and many more illness they can have all this in package or either one. If you don’t know about it go and google about it. This post is not about it.
If someone tells you they are victims first listen and understand. No one makes such stories.If they telling it over and over again try to understand that they are not seeking attention. But they are seeking justice.Because such incidents leaves deep scar, give lifelong trauma,heartache and make someone vulnerable and emotionally dead.
Trust me it is not easy,that is why even Aishwarya Rai after winning beauty pageant,pledged that she will work towards womans right worldwide but couldn’t even complain against her own abusive past life. It is not like those days,where you atleast have family support you.Everyone has own life and they say they understand but they wont understand what you went through unless they had similar experience.
Any human who just brush of this kind of issue as if nothing happened,say or ask stupid questions towards victims thousand times much more worst than abuser or rapist. These humans say things like forget it,it just nightmare,why you repeating same thing over again or if you speak up after so long like Chinmayi they will ask brilliant question such as WHY NOW? All this intelligent people who ask such question,will just go get busy live their own life,family and kids. None has time to help victims go through dark sides of life. At least they can stop abusing victims verbally.
I am very sure everyone remember India’s daughter Jyothi Singh@Nirbhaya's rape case in India. At the end of 84 minute bus journey of hell in New Delhi,she was thrown naked,bleeding and gravely injured into the road. The 2 things that deeply saddening other than the torture she went through is many don’t even come forward to cover her naked body with atleast piece of cloth. Number of people on road ignored the seriously injured couple before they were rushed to hospital. In BBC documentary, "India’s daughter", rapist Mukesh gave interview from jail.He said decent girl wont roam in night and he also blamed her for fighting back.
If you ever judge victims,blame victims,brush off,did not voice out or support when someone speaks up about sexual harrasement or rape,congratulations! Youre in same category with those who passby Nirbhaya naked bleeding body and choose to ignore and Mukesh the rapist who blamed the victim. I don't see much DIFFERENCE.
What are we passing to our generation? Just a like family treasures we are passing this kind of sick mentality of ignorance and baseless judgements from generation to generation. Do we realise in future our daughter or son has to live in such society. They are learning through us.They are watching every single thing we do,not only us,our entire generation is living example for the next generation.
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