What is your ultimate goal of relationship ?

There is something meaningful that i realise about relationship recently. Happy relationship doesnt means that you have to agree with each other all the time or liking same things. It is all about accepting the person as they are and love them completely for who they are. Respect their needs,choices and learn to accept the flaws.

When two different individual with two different walk of life meet and fall in love it is impossible to have same kind of mindset. How they overcome the differences,tolerate and learn to respect each other is what makes the relationship beautiful and strong. That requires maturity too.

We often think getting into commited relationship is hardest thing and impossible in todays world. Yes it does requires lots of patience,effort and understanding. The most important thing is, all this only works if both of them put the equal amount of effort.

Another important thing is having clear goals in relationship/marriage.
Ask yourself why are you even in this relationship ?
What is your marriage/relationship goals?
If you dont have answer for any of this it means it is time to re-evaluate your relationship!

Why it is so important to allow "The Pause" in life ?

When was the last time you press the pause button of your life?
When was the last time you stop living for the future and start living for the moment you're in now - present ?
We are very busy chasing so many things in life till we dont realise the power of the pause.

Why it is so important to allow pause in life?

Pause your life to ask yourself how, what
and why you're  doing things you doing right now.

Pause your life to see the blessings around you.

Pause your life to truly appreciate and acknowledge the people in your life.

Pause your life to celebrate and be happy for the success and happiness of others.

Pause your life to enjoy when others celebrate your victories and be happy for you.

Pause your life to be available for loved ones completely.

When in doubt,pause to think.

When angry,pause to think whether it is necessary.

When you find yourself constantly rushing, take a moment to pause. It may be time to catch up, or evaluate your actions. Life happens. Everyone needs a break from everything. 

Have you ever pause and enjoy the little things in life?
Sunshine,good cup of tea,gloomy days..
Yes we do,we take pictures

 as a return ticket to the memories otherwise it is gone. We upload it in Instagram with a nice caption and hashtag.
That is one of the thing that technology gifted us. But not sure how many of us truly lived the moments in photographs.
How about human's?

First step of a child,first touch of a new born,first argument with loved ones,the friend who always listens to all your gossips, the girlfriend who always complains of everything,the over protective boyfriend,last breath of parent,the blind man who needs help to cross road and many more can we get all this feelings if we dont pause moments of life in between busy life.

The principle of life is to pause not bypass.

Dreams and wakeup calls

She loves the beauty of dreams
Her dreams are full of colours..
It is always full of love..
Lots of love..
It started when she was a little girl,
Disney taught her that all fairy tales ends
with  "Happily ever after "
Laughters are timeless,
Imagination has no age..
Dreams are forever..
Since that moment..
She never stopped dreaming of
happy endings..
In between all the
struggles of growing up
She still dreams..

Yet there is always something
Stops her from from dreaming..
It hits her right in the feels..
Everytime she dreams

It hits her right in the feels..
Like a wakeup call to the reality..
These wake up calls comes in many forms..
At times as a phone call,
As a voice from the other side..
As a train stop..
As a farewell goodbyes
As a promise that never made..
As a ticking clock,
As a last page of favourite book,
At times its just a plain wake up call..
It wakes her up and shows the reality
Everytime she dreams..

Then there is this questions..
Isn't wrong to desire?
Isn't it wrong to dream?
Isn't she deserve the
happiness of reality too..?
Like everyone else she wants to live the life of her dream..

This time she decides to dream
beyond infinity..

Being the voice for the voiceless

"And why across the world there’s a woman just like me, with the same abilities and the same desires, same work ethic and love for her family, who would most likely make better films, and better speeches — only she sits in a refugee camp.

She has no voice.
She worries about what her children will eat, how to keep them safe, and if they’ll ever be allowed to return home"

This was by Angelina Jolie ,after winning Humanitarian Award in 2013 about her choice of being the voice for the voiceless. Now, this is not about Angelina Jolie or refugees. This is about "being the voice for the voiceless". Couple of days before i posted a status in Facebook about my depression with #IKilledSuicide 

My intention is to be the voice for the voiceless people who had similar experience but choose not to share about it. What makes them to be voiceless? They afraid of being judged,being criticised by society for not being strong enough in facing challenges.

What makes a society? Isn't you and me?

How many of us heard about suicide cases in daily life.There must be atleast one person from our relatives,friends,collegue, school/collegemate have commited suicide.
Can we deny the fact or statistics?

From someone who prefer to keep my life very private i choose to share about my depression very openly for I killed suicide page just to help the voiceless people who is still struggling.

The post itself was for a good cause to share stories of personal experiences to help and prevent suicide and it is for Facebook page called  I killed suicide. The hashtag itself explained that i killed suicide thoughts.
When people share about their stress, anxiety or problems we see them as vulnerable, pathetic and weak person. 

The moment you making fun of this,there is someone out might be taking their last breath,attempting suicide or thinking about taking their life.That someone can be your best friend,brother,sister,family mother,father or just someone you met 10 minutes ago.

You going to say no, you know them better? They are fine. NO ! Dont be very sure about it. You and me belongs to the same ignorant and selfish society.We are busy running after career,money and family. We care about likes in social media more than wellbeing of person next to us. It is not wrong to be so. I have been there i have done that.. But not anymore.. Spread love and kindness.. The smallest act of kindness brings big impact. 

I thank everyone who send positive messages,encouraged me and also those apologizing for not being there for me. Very few asked me, "How are you now?" Thank you for being human enough.End of the day that is all we need.

Be kind,say positive things,be positive,love and care everyone.

Ignorance kills human relationships

Why people choose to ignore or dont appreciate people they love ?
Why ego,Ignorance and lack of commitment  killing relationship nowdays ? When we choose to appreciate someone? When its too late.

Have you met anyone griefing loved ones death? They always have something nice to talk about loved ones. When someone is still we dont put much effort to show our emotions and love. Anytime might be the last time you are seeing someone. Why we forget that life is very short.

Do you know that most marriages fail because of ignorance in a relationship due to lack of emotions from one side?

One person showers love, other fails to return. Mind it ignorance in a relationships is not always due to lack of emotions from one side. In fact there are many other factors.

Sometimes, the problem with emotions in a relationship is not that they are missing, it is because they are not what they should be.Instead of love, there is anger,instead of warmth, there is cold and with this emotions no marriage or relationship can improve.

ASSUME makes an ASS of YOU and ME.

Why do people like to assume everything? Sometimes we make assumptions because we simply don't have the time to think something through or do an analysis and check for understanding. Do we realise how much we hurt others by doing this?

We assume something before someone finish their sentence..

We assume girls who wear sexy dress is whore/slut..

We assume those who openly talk about their life struggles are attention seekers..

We assume those who talk about depression seeking for sympathy..

We assume the dark skinned guy in bike is a bad guy

We assume every girls out every night is asking to get raped

I can list thousand and one things we assume in our daily life.If you notice i did not mention "they" i mention " we ". I inculde myself because im not perfect..i might assume something and it turns the other way.
   The question now is who gave us the rights to assume anything? Who give us right to judge anyone ?Who taught us to think this way..We often hear people say the society is sick..society is very bad..and all sort of negative things about society.
Now lets think what is society?

We blame society,but do we realise we are the society?

You should never assume. You know what happens when you assume. You make an ass out of you and me because that's how it's spelled.'